Take me, someone of an Eastern-Western hyphenated identity--is the gap between them so large that I fall in, invisible?Read More
"I was informed by the Title IX office after being assaulted that I had no chance at getting my perpetrator punished. Most other students who have seeked help from the administration have only faced backlash from the university.”Read More
Long story short, 9-5 office jobs are not made for mentally ill people like me.Read More
Disabled folks have a history of organizing.Read More
In order for a true apology to occur, you would need to come to understand, recognize, and acknowledge how you and your industry are complicit in replicating and reinforcing toxic body image ideals for all types of folx; of all ages and sizes. But we don't see this happening anytime soon.Read More
"As an Asian American woman, I grew up in a household that associated mental disorders as crazy. It affected my ability of reaching out to others for help and did not allow me a safe space to disclose my personal thoughts."Read More
I have had my own battle with mental illness (depression, AvPD, anxiety) for over a decade now, and that has given me the passion to reach out to others who are fighting as well. I wholeheartedly plan to make counseling my career. I'm a dork who loves anime, listening to music, and horror movies.Read More
“I struggled because my family didn’t understand that during holiday celebration or meal, you should not bring up the eating disorder. Don’t ask me why I’m not eating the stuffing. Don’t tell me I should eat the dessert. You just need to love me. Give me my space and have hope that by next year, maybe I’ll be in a better place.”Read More
"Much like how the rain affected our level of excitement for the day, the clouds of depression affect your overall life. You find it hard to see joy in anything; you see things that should be positive and can’t help but think negatively; you just don’t want to be there. How fitting it is to be at a walk for suicide prevention with the physical equivalent of depression clouds looming over our heads."Read More
The words “I love you” should never be underestimated, but every human being has a few words that make her soul come alive … that bring peace to his uncertain heart … that help them rise when they fall. Discover what those words are by watching—what makes her smile? What motivates him to keep trying? What adds a spring to his step? Commit those soul-building words to memory and say them as often as you can so that one day you are no longer needed to hear them.Read More
I have been on suicide watch twice in my life — neither time for an attempt, or even because I was suicidal. So, I beg the question — what went wrong?Read More
"Depression is what the doctors called it. I explained the shift as a loss of clarity. For the remaining eight months of my freshman year I slept, dreamlessly, occasionally waking to clutter journals with thoughts that were too upsetting to speak about."Read More
There is not one event which had made me like this.Read More
My Current Fitness Mantras:
- Just be active! For you, you know that means more than walking. Run a few times a week, but also add in strengthening exercises (for those arms that can’t seem to finish a push-up) and alternative forms of cardio.
- Make sure you’re having fun, don’t worry too much about the calories your burning. That’s not why you’re there.
- Working out is not a punishment, its not about hurting a weak body. The voice that motivates you should come from a place of self-worth and self-love. It should be saying, I believe you can run farther, faster, stronger.
- Take breaks and don’t be guilty about them.
- Listen to your body and exercise a variety of muscles. It’s about feeling strong, not about becoming thin.
- The gym is not a place to feel pretty, don’t focus on anyone else but you.
- You have a great butt, squats or no squats.
Mental Illness. Shhh, don't say that! That's the philosophy I grew up with, anyway.Read More
A poem written in Nicole's perspective about what it's like living with GAD.Read More
It’s no secret that this society doesn’t cater to (or sometimes even accommodate) people with mental illnesses. It is, however, a secret just how much has to be done by some people with mental illnesses to make themselves feel as comfortable as possible (which sometimes, still isn’t comfortable) in their day-to-day lives.Read More
"I am neither a drug addict nor an alcoholic but maybe I am addicted and maybe I am drunk. On images in the media? To perfection? Control?"Read More
With the limited amount of accurate information you can find on self-harm, most of it relating to summer is full of "Your scars are part of you. Go out in the sun and relax and lay on the beach and don't let your illness get in the way of your life!" While, yes, your scars are part of you, that doesn't make it any less sucky to go out, vulnerable into a world that doesn't often understand.Read More
I am here to remind everyone that it is okay not to be okay. We are constantly telling people, “It’s okay,” and “It will get better.” I have learned that it’s more comforting to hear, “Yeah, it sucks right now. What do YOU want to do about it?” or, like I said before, “It is okay not to be okay.” Empathy is the most important thing for people with mental illnesses. We need for people to really imagine what it feels like to go through this, and then to respond to us as if we were themselves.
So, when you have free time and you’re laying in your bed for what seems like days at a time, or really is days at a time, thinking about all the things you should/could/want to be doing, promise me that you will do something you can be proud of. Sometimes, the biggest sense of pride comes from helping others. You don’t even have to get up from your bed. Write a poem and send it to your best friend. Color in a mandala, go online and “create your own galaxy.” Show it to someone who loves you- they’ll be so happy – even if you’re still down. The pride that fills you (for however long) won’t be that boastful pride, or egocentric pride, or the kind of pride that glows from your skin, but it will be the kind of pride you get when you come into contact with the fact that even at the worst times, physically or mentally, you do matter.Read More